On Saturday afternoon, my Love complained of discomfort in her abdomen, with occasional shots of pain. She felt bloated. She went to bed in the early evening.
She slept all day Sunday. I simmered a stewing hen, fed her a bowl of broth and pulled meat, then went to bed early myself.
Monday morning, her discomfort was worse. She had a continuous aching pain. She went to work, but was so tired that she came home mid-afternoon. She had mild nausea. She didn’t feel feverish.
I left work early. She was in bed, asleep. I made tortellini in the broth from Sunday. She woke up and had two bowls of tortellini. We watched the ballgame.
Then her appendix burst.
I never want to go through anything like that again. She was in writhing agony. I called an ambulance. They took her to the nearest emergency room. They immediately did an appendectomy.
I was nobody. Just a friend, sitting in the waiting room of the ER. Nobody would tell me anything. I called her parents and her siblings. They called the hospital. Nobody would tell them anything.
People: Appoint a health care proxy! Keep it up to date! Make sure that people have copies!
They finally let me in to see her when she woke up and asked for me.
She looked awful. White as chalk. Hair a mess. All wrung out. Lost weight when she doesn’t have extra to lose. IVs in both arms. Monitors and monitors and monitors, beeping and clicking. It’s hard not to watch them obsessively.
I slept in a chair in her room while she was in the hospital. I went to work, but I can’t say I was very productive. My firm was wonderfully supportive and sympathetic.
She’s home now, sleeping in her own bed.
I’m making jalapeno burgers for dinner. Just kidding.
PS: Thanks to the bloggers I follow for keeping me sane. You probably shouldn’t have made her laugh, though.
I wish a speedy recovery for your love, and hope you can find time to rest and settle your nerves , wishing good health to you both
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Thanks, Butch! I need some nerve-settling. A nice nap this afternoon helped.
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All the best to you both! I am so glad you are both getting through it and wishing a quick recovery.
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I wish your wife a soon recovery! She’s gonna be fine! Keep up your spirits! You’ve got a big heart!
Lots of warmth to you both!
Your family is an example to follow.
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She’s not my wife – yet. I expect that to change.
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I wish you good luck with that! Love conquers all.
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Hope she is on the mend. Take care of her and yourself.
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Thank you!
She’s much better. She skipped work today, but plans to be in tomorrow.
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I’m glad to hear that she is okay, but I can just imagine how terrible it must have been waiting for them to give you some news about what was going on with her…sending healing energy to your love…
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Thank you.
It was the worst hours of my life. I come from the mountains. I don’t scare easy. But I am not ashamed to tell you that I was scared to death.
Even after she came out of surgery, she was too dopey to talk coherently. She kept calling my name until one of the nurses figured out that she was calling for the woman praying in the waiting room. That’s when they let me in. Even then, the doctors couldn’t discuss her condition with me until they judged that she was competent to sign a consent and proxy. It was touch and go for a day after that.
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Ugh, I can’t imagine…and you guys are in NYC?! I’m surprised it was like that! We’ve never really had a bad experience like that, but then again, we’re married, so maybe that’s it…it sucks you had to go through that…
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We hadn’t done health care proxies or medical disclosure consents for each other.
We’re not married, or even engaged. We agreed to give it a year before we got engaged. (I’m tempted to backslide on that, especially after last week!) Technically, we don’t even share a residence. (Each of us has her our own apartment, although curiously one or the other is empty every night …)
Federal and state privacy laws prohibited the hospital, doctors, nurses, etc from telling me anything. I raised Hell, but it didn’t do any good until she started asking for me.
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