My Love and I want children.
I’m going to my Love’s GYN.
Both of us are going to a fertility clinic that our GYN recommended. When I asked our GYN if the clinic is lesbian-friendly, she laughed that a fertility clinic in Manhattan has to be lesbian-friendly. She was right: The clinic made us feel very welcome.
Initial tests indicate that neither of us will have a problem. We shouldn’t need to take extraordinary measures.
With a new, high-profile, high-pressure job, I can’t consider taking a pregnancy leave for at least a year. I need to establish myself before taking extended time off.
My Love hasn’t any restrictions. She can work as much or as little as she wants. She could take time off, or work from home, or even retire. She’s the undisputed boss of her firm: She started it and built it into a powerhouse. To give herself time to build a personal life, she turned over day-to-day management to her partners, although she is still The Boss. Even if she weren’t, her partners would happily let her do whatever she wants. She has made them a lot of money. Financially, after starting with nothing and having been broke a couple of times, she could retire today and live very comfortably for the rest of her life.
Her only restriction: We’re planning to marry next August (2016). She doesn’t want to be a pregnant bride.
My Love: I don’t want our teenagers to look at our wedding album and think that premarital intercourse is OK.
I think she’s serious.
On the other hand, neither of us is getting any younger.
I’m in my mid-30s. She’s in her late 30s. I’m not sure how much time we have to try turkey basters before we need to go to more scientific measures.
My Love is funny. Her business is using quantitative methods to project probabilities of extremely complicated business options. Yet, she is incapable of planning anything, even lunch.
I’m an engineer. I need a planning document, P90s, critical paths, PERTs, gantts, requirements.
Me: We should be planning this a little. Understand the conditional probabilities of the options. Have a critical path, a timeline, alternatives, fallbacks.
My Love (rolling her eyes): Oh, for goodness sake. People have been doing this for a few million years without any of that.
Me: Lesbians haven’t. It’s a little more complicated.
My Love: I’ve inseminated hundreds of heifers and cows. How complicated can it be?