Things one knows in the head sometimes become things one understands in the heart.
- Separating conception from love.
Our child will be my child, a child of our love, a child I will love unconditionally. The person we are selecting will not love either of us or our child.
I understood that intellectually. But it wasn’t until we were flipping through the books – coolly selecting or rejecting the biological parent of our child based on a check-mark or a word or two on a form – that it became more than an intellectual understanding.
- Separating conception from sex.
We can’t conceive a child in an act of love.
I understood that intellectually. But now I know in my heart that the best we can hope for is a kiss while jamming her with a turkey baster.
However, I intend to follow it up with an act of love.
We have real empathy for straight couples who face this, too.